Weddings give me goosebumps ,its not that i hate seeing people tying that knot but it really scares me that each day i have to witness breakups and divorces..
In other countries wedding are simply done with no complications ,the weds go to church and get back home to celebrate with few friends and loved ones .
But in my country Tanzania its quite different i tell you , what am trying to set here are scenes that most weddings in my country have to do despite the few ones where involves rich people...
First after approaching your lovely girl by using different sugar coated words and finally getting her that doesn't mean its the end of the story ,one stress after the other will haunt you ..one of the stress is the dowry.Its quite different in my country ,i get to understand in some cultures like Indians the woman has to pay dowry for the man ,but here in Tanzania the man has to pay the dowry and not just something small,you have to give out what the ladies family wish to have ...
some of the few things that they will order you to bring are ,Grandpa's Blanket and Stick ,Grandma's Bed sheet and a traditional cloth known as "Khanga",next are the parents , Dads shirt and suit and others order some more difficult things ,for the mother a bag full of fancy clothes and don't think that's it you still have the uncles and aunties not forgetting the sisters and brothers .
After Dowry process ,you still have long meetings that will definitely waste time and money...after meetings we have the so called Kitchen party ,a party where men are not allowed , i always ask myself what's the use of this party ,and why call it kitchen party ,i wonder if they teach them to cook in this parties or is it a meeting where women plan on eliminating men's courage.i hope its not a fake party where missiles and grenades are targeted to us.
Kitchen party cant be the end ,they still have to do the Send Off party...Holy me...why a send off party? i have never gotten allegiance of this party also...this is where the girl exposes the Husband to the public ,i really don't understand why expose him at a send off party while you can still expose him at the wedding...
Then finally the wedding ,where invitations are given to more than a hundred people ,a presidential like escort to the venue ,the part that i mostly hate ,noise pollution i could say ,why press the horns to the public ,can it be silently...and why blow trumpets loudly like having a monarchy ambling band ...
The whole process gets me into a surprise ,i really dont understand the logic of everything and yet we call ourselves poor.ooohh i almost forgot that how generous people from our country are, they will donate any amount of money for weddings but not a penny for education ..and yet we call ourselves poor ...i find it apish..
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