Wednesday, March 13, 2013

"I lose sexual desire when my man asks me for intercourse"
"Msongo i am 24 years old ,well known by Jessica i reside in Kampala,i have been following your articles and they have quite impressed and enlighten me,some simple writing with wondrous theme.
I don't believe you are a love guru or i hate to say so but i need your help,,i have a problem in losing sexual desire.I have been evading my guy whenever he asks me to have intercourse ,and whenever i have sex with my guy am always dry .what should i do?"

Hi Jessica we are charmed to help..

Loss of sexual desire, known in medical terms as hypo active sexual desire disorder (HSDD), is the most common form of sexual dysfunction among women of all ages. A recent study showed that nearly one-third of women aged 18 to 59 suffer from a lost interest in sex, and it's not all in their heads.So since you are 24 years old you are at risk.

Common causes for a loss of sexual desire and drive in women include:
  • Interpersonal relationship issues. Partner performance problems, lack of emotional satisfaction with the relationship, the birth of a child, and becoming a caregiver for a loved one can decrease sexual desire.
  • Sociocultural influences. Job stress, peer pressure, and media images of sexuality can negatively influence sexual desire.
  • Low testosterone. Testosterone affects sexual drive in both men and women. Testosterone levels peak in women's mid-20s and then steadily decline until menopause, when they drop dramatically.
  • Medical problems: Mental illnesses such as depression, or medical conditions, such as endometriosis, fibroids, and thyroid disorders, impact a woman's sexual drive both mentally and physically.
  • Medications: Certain antidepressants (including the new generation of SSRIs), blood pressure lowering drugs, and oral contraceptives can lower sexual drive in many ways, such as decreasing available testosterone levels or affecting blood flow.
  • Age. Blood levels of androgen's fall continuously in women as they age.
  • Lack of Sleep Fatigue can wear down all of the senses, which might be why women lose interest in sex. If all you can think about is catching a few Z's, sex is low on the priority list.
  • Extra Body weight and Cholesterol:some might find this funny but those with big body weights and high fat have high risk of losing sexual desire.
Jessica many minor things can cause lack of sexual desire,You may have had other issues and your sexual interest just withered by degrees over time. Whatever the reason, you do not have to just live with it. There are several possible ways to help get things moving again if you will just take some steps to see it happen. there some of possible ways to put drive back in your sex life,Because a loss of sexual desire in women is caused by a combination of physical and psychological factors, it usually requires more than one treatment approach to fix the problem.

  • Testosterone therapy. Although no hormone or drug has been approved by the FDA to treat sexual problems in women, many gynecologists recommend off-label uses of testosterone therapy for women with low sexual desire to restore testosterone to normal (per-menopausal) levels.
  • Addressing underlying medical conditions. Medical problems contributing to low sexual desire may require surgical treatment, such as the removal of painful fibroids or medication.
  •  Changing medications or altering the dose. If the problem is caused by medications, a change of prescription or alternative therapies may be recommended. If an oral contraceptive is suspected as the culprit in lowering testosterone levels, a different formulation or non-hormonal birth control methods may be prescribed.
  • Vaginal estrogen's. In postmenopausal women, vaginal dryness may be treated with vaginal estrogen creams.
  • Sex therapy and/or relationship counseling. "Sex therapy is very effective for individuals and couples, and that is always at the top of my list,"  Sexual dysfunction usually affects both parties in a relationship and should be discussed together or individually with a mental health professional.
  •  New sex positions and style:After some possible treatment new sex positions would be of help,some loose sex drive just because the partner is boring,try to talk to your partner and invent new skills to drive the sex,this might be very helpful.
  • Fear-fear of pregnancy can lead to lack of sex desire,Your emotions simply shut down your body's natural tendency to want sex. In this way, you insure that a pregnancy will not happen.
NB.You may be carrying too little weight to feel your best. Some women practice starvation as a diet technique. This leaves your body undernourished. Your body will rob calories from other areas to meet its energy needs. Reducing your sex drive is one way the body retaliates for starving it. Your body knows when you do not have enough reserves to support sex and my dear this has been common to almost every youth,trying to starve themselves thinking they are maintaining surely there better ways to maintain rather than starving yourself.

Finally, you may need to work on your relationship with your significant other. You may be disturbed by a lack of commitment. There might be some dishonesty between you that needs attention. You may feel ignored until it is time for sex. The problem could sit on either side of the relationship and still create problems in the sex department. Spend some time with your mate and reconnect.

For dryness while having sex i would advice you to get some lubricants,talk to your gynecologist for proper advice on what lubricants to use and more health check ups to diagnose why you are getting dry,but also talk to your partner to consider preparing you before fornication,but to mention a few of lubricants.

  • Developpe Sex
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