NJOKI CHEGE’S "LETTER TO MY FUTURE HUSBAND"

 It is about 12:30 pm as I write this. I am at work pretending to be busy yet all I am doing is thinking about is you. We have probably met, or yet to meet at the fuel station or at the car wash. Maybe we will meet one rainy night on Thika Road when I bump into your Mercedes. Or we will meet at the coffee shop downstairs when I slip and pour my coffee all over your expensive suit. Don’t blame me, I am a hopeless romantic.

I am that point in life where I am faced with one of the most important decisions in life, like whom to marry. As you can imagine, a girl like me has undeniably a lot of suitors hot on her heels. (I am not bragging).While you are away, I have been going to dates and been disappointed. I have also been in relationships with idiots and got my heart broken a few times. I wouldn’t deny that I haven’t been guilty of breaking a few hearts as well. I thought I should write you a letter to let you know of few expectations I have in mind- more like terms and conditions of being Mr. Njoki.

There must be a wedding: I know men hate weddings, but I must get married in a church, not a garden, but my local church. Having grown up in PCEA, my parents are the traditional kind that wants to walk their little girl down the aisle. And she must not be pregnant! Therefore, please bear with me when I insist that you must declare your love to me before man and God. Unlike most women I know, I don’t want a big fat wedding. A simple, intimate ceremony one will do because I would rather we went on an expensive honeymoon than spend too money much impressing people who don’t like us anyway.

I like finer things in life: So you must work hard. I will not marry a lazy, poor man. I am assuming that if I have agreed to marry you, you must be moneyed. I am sorry if I sound like a gold-digger, but love never fed anyone. Therefore, you must provide that good life I have always dreamed of. Our children (I want one, but I know you’ll want two, so we can compromise) must attend good schools. Not the academies in the estate, I am talking high-end schools. Therefore, prepare yourself to cough good money when it comes to educating Chege and Wairimu. (I already have names for them). We must live in a leafy address and I will not agree to drive my small car anymore once I am married to you. My advice is that you start investing now.

My father will always be in the picture: So deal with it. Again, if I have decided to marry you, then daddy must have really, really and I mean really like you. He must have called you ‘Son’ at least once or twice, in a coded language to show me that he approves of you. My dad and i are inseparable, we talk four to five times a day and we text and WhatsApp each other a lot. Don’t feel jealous because were it not for daddy, you wouldn’t have a wife.

Your mother: Could be my best-friend or worst enemy.
Mothers of men I have dated before tend to like me even though they thought my dresses a little too short and heels too high. I am not the type to pretend to wear those long, sweeping Kitenge dresses when meeting potential mothers-in-law, it’s just not in me to pretend. Therefore, should your mother like or dislike me, I want you to promise me that the leading lady in your life will always be me and you will always take my side. On the same breath, I don’t want to fight for your attention with our daughter Wairimu. I want you to love us all equally, but love me a little more.

Yours boys: Will always be your boys, I have already accepted that. Because I was raised well, I will allow you to spend time with your boys at least twice a week- that is if you behave. However, do not stay out beyond midnight on weekends and past nine pm on weekdays. Oh, and you must send me a text and attach a selfie on WhatsApp of you and your boys- just to make sure we are not lying to each other here.

The text message should go like ‘Honey, I am at ‘X’ place with George (left) and Wachira (right), and I will be home by midnight.’ Be warned future husband, I am very tech-savvy and I know how to use applications like GPS tracker just to ensure that you are not in a servant’s quarter somewhere. Should you miss your curfew three of four times, I will effect this rule: ‘Coitus is at 10p.m, whether you are home or not’ and I intend to make good of that rule.

Njoki Chege

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HERE IS NJOKI CHEGE’S ” LETTER TO MY FUTURE HUSBAND ” THAT HAS CAUGHT KENYAN MEN UNAWARES

Posted by Cyprian Nyakundi / on 7 October, 2014 / 44 Comments

It is about 12:30 pm as I write this. I am at work pretending to be busy yet all I am doing is thinking about is you. We have probably met, or yet to meet at the fuel station or at the car wash. Maybe we will meet one rainy night on Thika Road when I bump into your Mercedes. Or we will meet at the coffee shop downstairs when I slip and pour my coffee all over your expensive suit. Don’t blame me, I am a hopeless romantic.
I am that point in life where I am faced with one of the most important decisions in life, like whom to marry. As you can imagine, a girl like me has undeniably a lot of suitors hot on her heels. (I am not bragging).While you are away, I have been going to dates and been disappointed. I have also been in relationships with idiots and got my heart broken a few times. I wouldn’t deny that I haven’t been guilty of breaking a few hearts as well. I thought I should write you a letter to let you know of few expectations I have in mind- more like terms and conditions of being Mr. Njoki.
There must be a wedding: I know men hate weddings, but I must get married in a church, not a garden, but my local church. Having grown up in PCEA, my parents are the traditional kind that wants to walk their little girl down the aisle. And she must not be pregnant! Therefore, please bear with me when I insist that you must declare your love to me before man and God. Unlike most women I know, I don’t want a big fat wedding. A simple, intimate ceremony one will do because I would rather we went on an expensive honeymoon than spend too money much impressing people who don’t like us anyway.
I like finer things in life: So you must work hard. I will not marry a lazy, poor man. I am assuming that if I have agreed to marry you, you must be moneyed. I am sorry if I sound like a gold-digger, but love never fed anyone. Therefore, you must provide that good life I have always dreamed of. Our children (I want one, but I know you’ll want two, so we can compromise) must attend good schools. Not the academies in the estate, I am talking high-end schools. Therefore, prepare yourself to cough good money when it comes to educating Chege and Wairimu. (I already have names for them). We must live in a leafy address and I will not agree to drive my small car anymore once I am married to you. My advice is that you start investing now.
My father will always be in the picture: So deal with it. Again, if I have decided to marry you, then daddy must have really, really and I mean really like you. He must have called you ‘Son’ at least once or twice, in a coded language to show me that he approves of you. My dad and i are inseparable, we talk four to five times a day and we text and WhatsApp each other a lot. Don’t feel jealous because were it not for daddy, you wouldn’t have a wife.
Your mother: Could be my best-friend or worst enemy.
Mothers of men I have dated before tend to like me even though they thought my dresses a little too short and heels too high. I am not the type to pretend to wear those long, sweeping Kitenge dresses when meeting potential mothers-in-law, it’s just not in me to pretend. Therefore, should your mother like or dislike me, I want you to promise me that the leading lady in your life will always be me and you will always take my side. On the same breath, I don’t want to fight for your attention with our daughter Wairimu. I want you to love us all equally, but love me a little more.
Yours boys: Will always be your boys, I have already accepted that. Because I was raised well, I will allow you to spend time with your boys at least twice a week- that is if you behave. However, do not stay out beyond midnight on weekends and past nine pm on weekdays. Oh, and you must send me a text and attach a selfie on WhatsApp of you and your boys- just to make sure we are not lying to each other here.
The text message should go like ‘Honey, I am at ‘X’ place with George (left) and Wachira (right), and I will be home by midnight.’ Be warned future husband, I am very tech-savvy and I know how to use applications like GPS tracker just to ensure that you are not in a servant’s quarter somewhere. Should you miss your curfew three of four times, I will effect this rule: ‘Coitus is at 10p.m, whether you are home or not’ and I intend to make good of that rule.
Njoki Chege

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HERE IS NJOKI CHEGE’S ” LETTER TO MY FUTURE HUSBAND ” THAT HAS CAUGHT KENYAN MEN UNAWARES

Posted by Cyprian Nyakundi / on 7 October, 2014 / 44 Comments

It is about 12:30 pm as I write this. I am at work pretending to be busy yet all I am doing is thinking about is you. We have probably met, or yet to meet at the fuel station or at the car wash. Maybe we will meet one rainy night on Thika Road when I bump into your Mercedes. Or we will meet at the coffee shop downstairs when I slip and pour my coffee all over your expensive suit. Don’t blame me, I am a hopeless romantic.
I am that point in life where I am faced with one of the most important decisions in life, like whom to marry. As you can imagine, a girl like me has undeniably a lot of suitors hot on her heels. (I am not bragging).While you are away, I have been going to dates and been disappointed. I have also been in relationships with idiots and got my heart broken a few times. I wouldn’t deny that I haven’t been guilty of breaking a few hearts as well. I thought I should write you a letter to let you know of few expectations I have in mind- more like terms and conditions of being Mr. Njoki.
There must be a wedding: I know men hate weddings, but I must get married in a church, not a garden, but my local church. Having grown up in PCEA, my parents are the traditional kind that wants to walk their little girl down the aisle. And she must not be pregnant! Therefore, please bear with me when I insist that you must declare your love to me before man and God. Unlike most women I know, I don’t want a big fat wedding. A simple, intimate ceremony one will do because I would rather we went on an expensive honeymoon than spend too money much impressing people who don’t like us anyway.
I like finer things in life: So you must work hard. I will not marry a lazy, poor man. I am assuming that if I have agreed to marry you, you must be moneyed. I am sorry if I sound like a gold-digger, but love never fed anyone. Therefore, you must provide that good life I have always dreamed of. Our children (I want one, but I know you’ll want two, so we can compromise) must attend good schools. Not the academies in the estate, I am talking high-end schools. Therefore, prepare yourself to cough good money when it comes to educating Chege and Wairimu. (I already have names for them). We must live in a leafy address and I will not agree to drive my small car anymore once I am married to you. My advice is that you start investing now.
My father will always be in the picture: So deal with it. Again, if I have decided to marry you, then daddy must have really, really and I mean really like you. He must have called you ‘Son’ at least once or twice, in a coded language to show me that he approves of you. My dad and i are inseparable, we talk four to five times a day and we text and WhatsApp each other a lot. Don’t feel jealous because were it not for daddy, you wouldn’t have a wife.
Your mother: Could be my best-friend or worst enemy.
Mothers of men I have dated before tend to like me even though they thought my dresses a little too short and heels too high. I am not the type to pretend to wear those long, sweeping Kitenge dresses when meeting potential mothers-in-law, it’s just not in me to pretend. Therefore, should your mother like or dislike me, I want you to promise me that the leading lady in your life will always be me and you will always take my side. On the same breath, I don’t want to fight for your attention with our daughter Wairimu. I want you to love us all equally, but love me a little more.
Yours boys: Will always be your boys, I have already accepted that. Because I was raised well, I will allow you to spend time with your boys at least twice a week- that is if you behave. However, do not stay out beyond midnight on weekends and past nine pm on weekdays. Oh, and you must send me a text and attach a selfie on WhatsApp of you and your boys- just to make sure we are not lying to each other here.
The text message should go like ‘Honey, I am at ‘X’ place with George (left) and Wachira (right), and I will be home by midnight.’ Be warned future husband, I am very tech-savvy and I know how to use applications like GPS tracker just to ensure that you are not in a servant’s quarter somewhere. Should you miss your curfew three of four times, I will effect this rule: ‘Coitus is at 10p.m, whether you are home or not’ and I intend to make good of that rule.
Njoki Chege

- See more at: http://cnyakundi.com/here-is-njoki-cheges-letter-to-my-future-husband-that-has-caught-kenyan-men-unawares/#sthash.jtfpzDQz.dpuf

It is about 12:30 pm as I write this. I am at work pretending to be busy yet all I am doing is thinking about is you. We have probably met, or yet to meet at the fuel station or at the car wash. Maybe we will meet one rainy night on Thika Road when I bump into your Mercedes. Or we will meet at the coffee shop downstairs when I slip and pour my coffee all over your expensive suit. Don’t blame me, I am a hopeless romantic.
I am that point in life where I am faced with one of the most important decisions in life, like whom to marry. As you can imagine, a girl like me has undeniably a lot of suitors hot on her heels. (I am not bragging).While you are away, I have been going to dates and been disappointed. I have also been in relationships with idiots and got my heart broken a few times. I wouldn’t deny that I haven’t been guilty of breaking a few hearts as well. I thought I should write you a letter to let you know of few expectations I have in mind- more like terms and conditions of being Mr. Njoki.
There must be a wedding: I know men hate weddings, but I must get married in a church, not a garden, but my local church. Having grown up in PCEA, my parents are the traditional kind that wants to walk their little girl down the aisle. And she must not be pregnant! Therefore, please bear with me when I insist that you must declare your love to me before man and God. Unlike most women I know, I don’t want a big fat wedding. A simple, intimate ceremony one will do because I would rather we went on an expensive honeymoon than spend too money much impressing people who don’t like us anyway.
I like finer things in life: So you must work hard. I will not marry a lazy, poor man. I am assuming that if I have agreed to marry you, you must be moneyed. I am sorry if I sound like a gold-digger, but love never fed anyone. Therefore, you must provide that good life I have always dreamed of. Our children (I want one, but I know you’ll want two, so we can compromise) must attend good schools. Not the academies in the estate, I am talking high-end schools. Therefore, prepare yourself to cough good money when it comes to educating Chege and Wairimu. (I already have names for them). We must live in a leafy address and I will not agree to drive my small car anymore once I am married to you. My advice is that you start investing now.
My father will always be in the picture: So deal with it. Again, if I have decided to marry you, then daddy must have really, really and I mean really like you. He must have called you ‘Son’ at least once or twice, in a coded language to show me that he approves of you. My dad and i are inseparable, we talk four to five times a day and we text and WhatsApp each other a lot. Don’t feel jealous because were it not for daddy, you wouldn’t have a wife.
Your mother: Could be my best-friend or worst enemy.
Mothers of men I have dated before tend to like me even though they thought my dresses a little too short and heels too high. I am not the type to pretend to wear those long, sweeping Kitenge dresses when meeting potential mothers-in-law, it’s just not in me to pretend. Therefore, should your mother like or dislike me, I want you to promise me that the leading lady in your life will always be me and you will always take my side. On the same breath, I don’t want to fight for your attention with our daughter Wairimu. I want you to love us all equally, but love me a little more.
Yours boys: Will always be your boys, I have already accepted that. Because I was raised well, I will allow you to spend time with your boys at least twice a week- that is if you behave. However, do not stay out beyond midnight on weekends and past nine pm on weekdays. Oh, and you must send me a text and attach a selfie on WhatsApp of you and your boys- just to make sure we are not lying to each other here.
The text message should go like ‘Honey, I am at ‘X’ place with George (left) and Wachira (right), and I will be home by midnight.’ Be warned future husband, I am very tech-savvy and I know how to use applications like GPS tracker just to ensure that you are not in a servant’s quarter somewhere. Should you miss your curfew three of four times, I will effect this rule: ‘Coitus is at 10p.m, whether you are home or not’ and I intend to make good of that rule.
Njoki Chege
- See more at: http://cnyakundi.com/here-is-njoki-cheges-letter-to-my-future-husband-that-has-caught-kenyan-men-unawares/#sthash.jtfpzDQz.dpuf

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HERE IS NJOKI CHEGE’S ” LETTER TO MY FUTURE HUSBAND ” THAT HAS CAUGHT KENYAN MEN UNAWARES

Posted by Cyprian Nyakundi / on 7 October, 2014 / 44 Comments

It is about 12:30 pm as I write this. I am at work pretending to be busy yet all I am doing is thinking about is you. We have probably met, or yet to meet at the fuel station or at the car wash. Maybe we will meet one rainy night on Thika Road when I bump into your Mercedes. Or we will meet at the coffee shop downstairs when I slip and pour my coffee all over your expensive suit. Don’t blame me, I am a hopeless romantic.
I am that point in life where I am faced with one of the most important decisions in life, like whom to marry. As you can imagine, a girl like me has undeniably a lot of suitors hot on her heels. (I am not bragging).While you are away, I have been going to dates and been disappointed. I have also been in relationships with idiots and got my heart broken a few times. I wouldn’t deny that I haven’t been guilty of breaking a few hearts as well. I thought I should write you a letter to let you know of few expectations I have in mind- more like terms and conditions of being Mr. Njoki.
There must be a wedding: I know men hate weddings, but I must get married in a church, not a garden, but my local church. Having grown up in PCEA, my parents are the traditional kind that wants to walk their little girl down the aisle. And she must not be pregnant! Therefore, please bear with me when I insist that you must declare your love to me before man and God. Unlike most women I know, I don’t want a big fat wedding. A simple, intimate ceremony one will do because I would rather we went on an expensive honeymoon than spend too money much impressing people who don’t like us anyway.
I like finer things in life: So you must work hard. I will not marry a lazy, poor man. I am assuming that if I have agreed to marry you, you must be moneyed. I am sorry if I sound like a gold-digger, but love never fed anyone. Therefore, you must provide that good life I have always dreamed of. Our children (I want one, but I know you’ll want two, so we can compromise) must attend good schools. Not the academies in the estate, I am talking high-end schools. Therefore, prepare yourself to cough good money when it comes to educating Chege and Wairimu. (I already have names for them). We must live in a leafy address and I will not agree to drive my small car anymore once I am married to you. My advice is that you start investing now.
My father will always be in the picture: So deal with it. Again, if I have decided to marry you, then daddy must have really, really and I mean really like you. He must have called you ‘Son’ at least once or twice, in a coded language to show me that he approves of you. My dad and i are inseparable, we talk four to five times a day and we text and WhatsApp each other a lot. Don’t feel jealous because were it not for daddy, you wouldn’t have a wife.
Your mother: Could be my best-friend or worst enemy.
Mothers of men I have dated before tend to like me even though they thought my dresses a little too short and heels too high. I am not the type to pretend to wear those long, sweeping Kitenge dresses when meeting potential mothers-in-law, it’s just not in me to pretend. Therefore, should your mother like or dislike me, I want you to promise me that the leading lady in your life will always be me and you will always take my side. On the same breath, I don’t want to fight for your attention with our daughter Wairimu. I want you to love us all equally, but love me a little more.
Yours boys: Will always be your boys, I have already accepted that. Because I was raised well, I will allow you to spend time with your boys at least twice a week- that is if you behave. However, do not stay out beyond midnight on weekends and past nine pm on weekdays. Oh, and you must send me a text and attach a selfie on WhatsApp of you and your boys- just to make sure we are not lying to each other here.
The text message should go like ‘Honey, I am at ‘X’ place with George (left) and Wachira (right), and I will be home by midnight.’ Be warned future husband, I am very tech-savvy and I know how to use applications like GPS tracker just to ensure that you are not in a servant’s quarter somewhere. Should you miss your curfew three of four times, I will effect this rule: ‘Coitus is at 10p.m, whether you are home or not’ and I intend to make good of that rule.
Njoki Chege

- See more at: http://cnyakundi.com/here-is-njoki-cheges-letter-to-my-future-husband-that-has-caught-kenyan-men-unawares/#sthash.jtfpzDQz.dpuf

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Ways to Achieve Wealth and Success

In his book, Rich Habits -- The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals, Tom Corley outlines several habits that distinguish the wealthy from the nonwealthy.

1. Setting good daily habits.

Good habits are the foundation of wealth building. The difference between successful and unsuccessful people lies in their daily habits. Simply put, successful people have many good habits and few bad ones. If you understand that your bad habits may be preventing you from becoming wealthy, that realization will be the first step in your improving your circumstances.
In his book, Corley invites you to take out a sheet of paper and list your bad habits in one column and then invert each one to place under a new column for good habits. It should look like this:
Bad Habit                                                /Good Habit
I watch too much TV.                I limit myself to one hour of TV per day.
I don’t remember names.          I write down names and remember them.
Then for 30 days, follow the guidance of your new good habits list. You’ll be amazed at how much you can accomplish.

2. Regularly creating goals.

Successful people are goal driven. They create goals all the time. They plan their day the night before with to-do lists.
People who are headed for success think for the long term. They have daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. But what’s a goal without a plan to reach them? So not only do successful people have goals, they also come up with ways to achieve them and hold themselves accountable.

3. Engaging in self-improvement daily.

Successful people are always looking for ways to improve themselves. They read every day and are students of their profession. They don’t spend their time on activities that don't bring them closer to their goals
.
Successful people know that time is too valuable a commodity to waste. They spend their time on the things that will move the needle for them in their business: Being committed to self-improvement means you engage in activities every day that will stretch you.

Seek ways to expand your knowledge. This won’t always be easy, but people grow from things that pose a challenge. Once your knowledge grows, opportunities appear.

4. Regularly taking care of personal health.

Each and every day successful people make an effort to eat right and exercise. Eating right is of utmost importance. Exercising daily can become a regular habit, just like taking a bath. People who exercise routinely have more energy to get things done. How are you doing in this area?

5. Often making time for relationship building.

People who are successful are other-people focused. They take time out of their day to strengthen the bonds of friendship and form long-lasting relationships with others. Networking is something they do all the time. They reach out to their contacts and look for ways to help them with no expectation of in return.

The most beautiful sound on Earth, I once heard someone say, is your name. So make it a goal to learn the names of every contact you meet. Aren’t you impressed when someone remembers your name? I know I am. So stand out as different and start remembering names.

6. Doing things in moderation.

You live in a balanced way if you do activities in moderation. This means having a balanced approach to work, eating, exercise, consuming alcohol, watching television, surfing the Internet and so forth. As a result, people will enjoy your company. If people like being around you, then you will be more apt to collaborate or find the new business partner that you need to take your business to the next level.

7. Getting things done.

Don’t put off to tomorrow what you can do today: Accomplish things. All people have fears, but successful people push past them. They don't procrastinate. They get the important things done, no matter the cost.

When the thought of putting off something enters the mind, immediately shed notion by saying, “Do it now.” He says repeat these words 100 times if necessary. Just don’t stop till the task is done.

8. Keeping a positive outlook.

Consider the most successful person you know. Is that person positive or negative? Most likely this individual is positive, enthusiastic, energetic and happy. This person chooses to see the good in others and in himself or herself. To this person, problems are just opportunities waiting to be uncovered.
Every day people are bombarded by news of bad deeds and doings. Successful people minimize their exposure to this type of thing and instead opt to fill their minds with positive ideas from books and magazines.

9. Regularly saving money. 

According to Corley, successful individuals put away about 10 percent to 20 percent of their gross earnings in a savings, investment or retirement plan. Not everyone can afford to do so, but what percent are you putting away?

10. Rejecting self-limiting thoughts. 

Successful people command their thoughts and emotions. As soon as bad thoughts intrude, they cast out anything that challenges their ability to succeed at the task at hand. They do not dwell on negative notions. Their self-talk is positive and not overly critical. They replace bad thoughts with good ones.
Because successful people engage in self-improvement daily and are constantly involved in positive things, they don’t allow themselves time to indulge in negative emotions.

11. Living within means.

Wealthy people avoid overspending. Among many of those struggling financially, some are living above their means. They spend more than they earn, live from paycheck to paycheck and are drowning in credit-card debt. If this is you, resolve today to turn things around for you and your family.

12. Reading daily. 

Many successful people read 30 minutes or more every day. Reading can increase your knowledge and know-how. When you read, often  you are seeking to improve yourself. This automatically sets you apart from your counterparts. You will stand out from the competition.

13. Limiting TV watching. 

Did you know that many successful  people limit the amount their TV time to one hour or less a day? How much time do you lose in front of the television that you could be spending doing something more productive?

14. Doing more than what’s required.

Successful people regularly go above and beyond the call of duty at work. Even if something is not in their job description, they will volunteer to do it. Wealthy people make themselves invaluable. As an entrepreneur, you may not have a boss. But in what ways do you go above and beyond for your clients? How do you wow them?

15. Talking less and listening more. 

When you listen, you learn. And as the adage goes, that’s why people have two ears and one mouth. When you take the time to really pay attention to what another person is saying, it can truly help not only you but your bottom line as well. When you listen, you are in a better position to help others.

16. Not giving up.

Don't give up when the going gets tough. Successful people hang in there. They pivot. They try something new. They persist. They may have to change their direction, but they keep moving forward.

17. Spending time with like-minded ones. 

There's a saying that goes, “Show me who your friends are and I’ll show you who you are.” I believe that. People are only as successful as those they choose to surround themselves with. Good associations can help you more quickly achieve your goals.

18. Finding a mentor.

Many people who have had a mentor have attributed their success to that person. Mentors can help you achieve your goals faster and keep you accountable. They can share valuable experience that can cut your learning time in half.

19. Knowing your why.

When you know why you're doing something, you will get what you want quicker than if you don’t. Having a purpose is essential to being successful in business and in life. Why do you want to be successful? Why do you really want to be wealthy?

20. Not giving fear the upper hand. 

Everyone has fears. Successful people don’t allow their fears to limit or define them. Fear inevitably keeps you in the same position and stunts your growth. Recognize your fears and seek ways to overcome them. Interview someone you admire and ask that person how he or she overcame a fear or pick up an autobiography and take notes.

21. Upgrading skills. 

If you want to get ahead, there’s only one way to do it: Become better at something than you are today. What's the one thing you can focus on for the next 30 days that will catapult you to rock-star status in your industry? Focus your attention on that.

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Event: World Food & Culture Day

Join us and send your taste buds on exotic journey at World Food & Culture Day on Saturday 18th @ IST Secondary School Masaki. Come and Spice it up! Enjoy a wealth of cuisine & culture from around the World.........To Participate call 0682567811

Discover the flavour of World Food & Culture. Take an exotic journey and experience a wealth of diversity and culture from Music. Art, and Food to Traditional Costumes and Crafts from all over the world in one day.

 Activities

• Food Court with Food from around the world
• Arts & Craft 
• Best food & Best Cultural outfit
• Live entertainment, Fashion show & Music

 Come join us for all this and so much more....

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MOVIE REVIEW - THE EQUALIZER

Denzel Washington has proven he can play both dust and rug. The 60-year-old actor has spent the latter part of his career perfecting two seemingly incongruous character types, the bookish teacher and the merciless vigilante killer. He’s made a convincing professor, coach, and life mentor: Remember the Titans, Malcolm X, Cry Freedom, and The Great Debaters had him speaking inspirational quotes in place of dialogue. But in Man on Fire, American Gangster, Inside Man, and Safe House he cut an equally believable criminal, indulging in violence and other vice.

That’s what makes The Equalizer, out in theaters today, the ultimate Denzel movie. In it, he delivers English lectures, uplifting speeches, dance moves, and brutal staple-gun assassinations. He passes a lot of time reading Books and spends the rest of his time killing. He makes easy friends with young, lost people in need of instruction; he makes enemies pretty quickly, too (or he would, if only he allowed them to live long enough to develop opinions). This is all to say that The Equalizer synthesizes Washington's character: a righteous assassin who is also a deep lover, and sometimes-teacher of literature.

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THE ISSUE OF BABY GAMMY IN KENYA

 

 

About a week ago, I saw a news piece on the BBC website about an Australian couple who were allegedly accused of leaving behind a surrogate baby called Gammy with the surrogate mother sadly because Gammy was diagnosed with down-syndrome. This triggered a thought process in my head and I decided to dig deeper in order to see the relationship between the law and surrogacy in Kenya.

 

Quite astonishing is the fact that the business of surrogacy is booming in Kenya to the point of potential surrogate mothers advertising on websites such as 'www.surrogatefinder.com' and the profits are being eaten by many fertility Clinics in Kenya this is particularly due to the fact that couples who have difficulty in getting children chose to take this path rather than the conventional methods such as adoption particularly due to the fact that the Children Act prescribes a lot of procedures before the adoption process is completed. What remains are the other methods of conceiving which have been advanced by science and medicine such as test-tube babies and indeed surrogacy although which attracts many ethical issues; but what is Surrogacy? ‘Surrogacy’ is where a woman becomes pregnant with the intention of handing over the child to someone else after giving birth. Generally, she carries the baby for a couple or parent who cannot conceive a child themselves - they are known as "intended parents".

 

There are two forms of surrogacy. In traditional surrogacy, the surrogate mother's egg is used, making her the genetic mother. In gestational surrogacy, the egg is provided by the intended mother or a donor. The egg is fertilised through in vitro fertilisation (IVF) and then placed inside the surrogate mother.

 

In the absence of clear regulation, the practice of surrogacy in Kenya is growing as an unsupervised industry with no law to fall back on if anything goes wrong during the treatment.

 

Surrogacy indeed raises many questions such as; Does the surrogate mother have any rights? What about the commissioning couple, the donors and the health facility that carries out the procedure? What about the rights of the unborn child, and its legal status? And what happens in an instance where a child born through surrogacy is afflicted with physical abnormalities? Is the commissioning couple obligated to take the child - what if they refuse to? What if twins are born and the contract only provides for one child? Does the surrogate hand over one child - since the contract specifies only one - and keep the second? Does either the parent donating the embryo or gamete gain parental responsibility as described under the Matrimonial Causes Act? what happens when a married woman agrees to be a surrogate and undergoes treatment without the husbands consent and the injustice that will be caused under the evidence Act in section 118 which presumes the husband to be the legitimate father of the child during a valid marriage and extends up to 180 days even after divorce unless the husband can prove that there was no sexual intimacy between them and thus conferring upon him parental responsibility.

 

So many questions and yet the law is still trying to play catch up with this issue which is facing our society today. What is important to note is the fact that the courts will ensure the interests of the Child are first upheld

 

Surrogacy arrangements are categorized as either commercial or altruistic. In commercial surrogacy, the surrogate is paid a fee plus any expenses incurred in her pregnancy. In altruistic surrogacy, only the expenses incurred, are paid, but the surrogate is not paid at all. In Jurisdictions, such as the United Kingdom, such agreements are said to be unenforceable by or against any of the persons making it. Meaning that, even though surrogacy is in fact legal, if a dispute were to arise out of the arrangement, the commissioning couple cannot sue the surrogate mother if she refuses to hand over the baby, and nor can she (the surrogate) sue the commissioning couple, if she does not receive any of the agreed payments, or if they refuse to take the baby.

The question that comes to mind is what happens if the surrogate mother refuses to hand over the baby to the intended parents? Do the parents have a right to enforce the surrogacy contract under law? In the Australian Case - Re Evelyn (1998) F.L.C 92-807, the Court recognized that it was to the benefit of the child to have knowledge of and contact with all parties to the surrogacy arrangement.

 

The brief facts of the case were that ‘Evelyn’ was born as a result of a surrogacy arrangement between two couples who had been close friends for many years. The arrangement was described as ‘entirely altruistically motivated’ and had been initiated by the woman who gestated the child and who was also biologically related to her. It was originally intended that close contact would be maintained between the two families, but frictions developed because the woman responsible for gestation became frustrated by what was perceived as inadequate communication. She was also struggling with her decision to relinquish the child. It was her decision to seek to have Evelyn returned to her.

 

The commissioning couple refused to give up Evelyn and a dispute over residence arose. At the time of the trial Evelyn was one-year-old and had been mainly residing with the commissioning couple. The Court decided that the child should be handed over to the gestational surrogate mother and her husband with visitation rights awarded to the commissioning couple. One may not agree with the finding of the court, but , is there not some profound wisdom in this decision which recognizes the complexity of the issues involved which might impact on the child’s future wellbeing both in the short and long-term?

It would be interesting to see how such a case would be decided in the Kenyan set up. Would reason prevail or half-hearted arguments based on morality carry the day?

Closer to home, South Africa adopts a liberal approach to surrogacy and as per the South Africa Children's Act of 2005 (which came fully into force in 2010) enables commissioning parents and the surrogate to have their agreement validated by the High Court even before fertilization. However, only those living in South Africa can benefit from the law, and the agreement must be altruistic rather than commercial in nature. In addition, the surrogate mother must have had at least one pregnancy and viable delivery, and have at least one living child. The South African statue also outlines the conditions of termination of pregnancy by the surrogate, and in that case, the implications on medical bills and reimbursements.

It remains to be seen how Kenya will be able to develop surrogacy laws while at the same time balancing the public interest and moral and ethical issues. Feminist will argue that criminalisation of commercial surrogacy will be an effort from men to stop women from gaining financial independence. You will even be surprised to find out that in Indonesia, some women are making a career out of surrogacy and are registered in agencies which handle surrogacy making it a big business for Fertility Clinics offering these services as well as Law firms who help in drafting of the surrogacy contract and the handling the registration of the baby. One important question which requires an answer is whether Kenya is ready to accept surrogacy into the society as it has been accepted in other states such as Indonesia and parts of the United States of America. Whatever the case, the pain of not being able to bear children is unbearable to some couples and the legislature should promptly address the issue of surrogacy in order to make it easy for such couples to experience the joy of surrogacy.

Prepared by;

 Alan Kigen, LL.B (Finalist) at the Catholic University of Eastern Africa

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IN THE NEW WORLD ORDER

Inevitably it is, and so shall it be. THE NEW WORLD ORDER has been in place for several decades now. We are all part of it, believe it or not. The uniform laws in place, world political reforms that have been witnessed by many of us, the world financial systems, religious singularity and many more are crucial wheels towards achieving this climax.

 

We cant deny the optical impacts of this system, we see laws being consolidated, monetary unification and religious singularity. All these have been shaped, with master minds and men of visions. It was only an imagination then, and it seemed utopian to attain but what's more powerful than imagination? even knowledge cannot overpower it, for every reality starts with imagination. Who would have believed a hundred years ago that mankind would walk on the moon, that space tourism would be as touring a national park or a museum? all this great change is by the power of imagination.

 

What is to be attained is far more greater than globalization, its far more than internet, its far more than United Nations. We are in the quest for one world government making the world not only as a village but as one family. This is a turning point of mankind's history, having attained a total control of resources, total control of environment which is the crucial vehicle towards global advancement.

 

Africa is part of this and so every one else. To deny it is fooling oneself its better to face the reality and shape the system to suite our needs. Positives things can be adopted from all parts, from all jurisdictions, from all legal systems. This will shape our weaknesses and enhance our energies seeing things from different angles and so making the right decisions and correct judgements towards one another with fairness, love and equality at the highest level, this is total liberation, total democracy.

 

What we need as Africa is transformative leaders, leaders who are willing for a transformation, leaders who are determined to the end. For the end is only the beginning, and a new course shall take place, better, stronger and more advanced than the former.

By Oscar O. Mutaitina,

LL.B (Finalist) at Catholic University of Eastern Africa, Nairobi

Blogger at www.sheriaminds.blogspot.com

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YOUNG GIRLS IN PURSUIT OF THEIR DREAMS V/S THEIR PARENTS EXCPECTATIONS

             Being born a girl in our African society you ought to be defined in three perspectives. One as a source of income  to your parents due to your bride price, two as a burden in terms of schooling since at the end you are just going to be a wife at home and three a hopeless calf in the middle of hungry lions in matters of facing the world since there are so many bad men out there ready to destroy and jeopardize your future.

            Back to your parents. You as girls have you ever felt the need to speak out and let your parents know about your opinions? Let us talk about your carrier, there comes a time when you want to take a certain carrier in your life but your parents tend to control your will power or they don't think it is the kind of carrier they want for you. Do you have a talent which you want to give it your all  but you cant since your parents think it is absurd  for you to follow your talent?

            There comes a time when you feel like you have had enough of your parents control on your decisions. You are tired of lying to yourself and that you want to emerge your inner self from its hiding place. But then you are afraid what if you fall, what if you fail, is there anybody who is going to give you a hand or even tell you "don't give up" or will there be anybody who will praise you and say at "least you tried". Instead your parents are going to stand out and say "we told you, you brought disgrace to our family", that you are nobody but a failure and a looser.

           I write this to tell you that it is time to fight for what you believe in. Make your parents trust that you can make them proud no matter what carrier you take or what dreams you have for yourself. It is time for a positive change let your inner make the path for your success. 

If they made it, we made it, i made you, then you can make it... Mercy Gabriel

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Campus Hostels at Midnight: What are students up to?

Room number one

Onyango is busy banging a first year chic he just met the other day. First he showed her where Hall 1 lecture hall is, or whatever it’s called, then took her to BSSC for some Chips and fresh juice and chips.  In the evening it was a train of Gin bottles for her at the Students Annex and now she’s all confused, and now he’s banging her. Good job Onyango. I’m ashamed of you. I thought ponyoka na fresha ended when Robert  was in campus.

Room number two

Joe had a long day and he’s snoring loudly.  In the evening he had carried Laura’s heavy shopping from the gate to  Hostel, a distance of about 5 kilometers. Laura is a sophisticated uptown chic while Joe is a village boy.  He thinks she likes him but little does he know that she is just with him because of the CATs and assignments. She would rather die than give him the P.

Room number three

Edu is trying to get some sleep but he can’t. His body is itching everywhere. It’s the bedbugs. He thinks to himself, ‘Why can’t the administration do something?’  The bedbugs have become too much. He calls his friend Kevo at and asks him if he can come and share the bed with him. Kevo refuses. He doesn’t want the transfer of bedbugs to his bed. What happened to ‘Akufaaye kwa dhiki ndiye rafiki?’ (A friend in need is a friend in deed)

Room number four

Tings a gwan. It’s puff puff pass on session here.  A fine reggae tune by Chuck Fenda called The Herb is playing on the woofer. Inside the room, William is shouting. He says his pen is walking towards him, coming to attack him.  George is laughing loudly at William. He knows it’s the effect of the weed. Don’t get caught guys, you are going to regret it.

Room number five

John has gone to shower. He has just made a mistake of leaving his room door open. His roommate is asleep. He comes back to find his laptop and phone missing. He wakes up his roommate and asks him if he saw the thief. The roommate has no idea. John feels like crying, he just bought that laptop two days ago. He still hadn’t even put riddims in it.

Room number six

Karis is still watching a movie with Beth. He still hasn’t figure out a way to go for it. His heart is pounding fast. He badly wants this girl.  He can see she is beginning to get sleepy. The movie is boring her. He hasn’t told her anything. He foolishly asks, “Can I kiss you?”. She is shocked. “What? You know you are like a brother to me.” Haha. My friend, once you are in the brother zone, you will never even touch her. Friend zone is even much better. Brother zone? She won’t even consider. That’s incest

Room number nine

Dan has been standing at the door for 30 minutes. He’s still trying to open it. He’s very drunk and can’t quite locate the lock. He’s seeing several locks. He shouts his roommate’s name a few more times, forgetting that his roommate isn’t in. Of course if he was in, the door wouldn’t have been locked from outside. After several unsuccessful attempts, he blacks out and lies on the floor.

Room number eight

Michael is studying. He’s a focused student who cares about his future. He has a CAT in two days’ time and knows he has to do his best.  Be blessed Michael- a true student.

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5 ways to be popular in campus

In our teens and early twenties, we all wish to be recognized in one way or another. It’s human nature. Being a person that no one really cares about or values can be really stressful. Boys always crave for respect and high recognition while girls usually crave for admiration and praise. The desire to be someone recognizable and influential is sometimes beyond our control. Campus is one of the best places to be popular. But how exactly can you get popular? Here are five ways

1.   Be mysterious

It’s very important to be mysterious. Mystery creates room for imagination in the minds of others. Imagination then creates desire and the need to discover or explore. Do not throw yourself everywhere and to everybody. People will get bored of you. There are many ways to be mysterious and unique but some are more effective than others.

For instance, a guy who misses most of the classes but always scores high marks in exams always makes people wonder. Someone who is quite and composed will make others talk. Members of opposite sex always analyze each other so if you are unique and mysterious, word will spread.

2.   Be active

Active and domineering people automatically create names for themselves. If you are good at something, perfect it. It’s wise to be involved in campus activities that you are passionate about. Make sure the activities that you get into are those that many people have access to. You can be a sportsman, a class rep, a student leader, a musician, a comedian, a club leader or an events organizer. Campus has lots of opportunities even in entrepreneurship. Bone fide entrepreneurs also make names for themselves. Create a busy schedule for yourself outside the classroom.

3.      Academics

Learning is the major reason why there’s university education. Students go to campus to learn and get high honors. You can be popular for being hardworking. If you spend most of the time in a large library you will definitely get known by most students. They will bump into you or interact with you at some point.

In class you can be the person that answers all the difficult questions. The best way to do this is by sitting at the back. Students who prefer the back are always assumed to be less bright, so if you are bright and sit at the back, you’ll definitely get popular. Chances are that you will be the only one in that zone who knows the answers. Most people will always turn to look you’re your hand is up. Make sure you add a commanding voice while at it. The type of voice that makes a lady think, “That’s the kind of voice from a father of my kids would really make them disciplined.”

4. Dressing

You have to dress well in order to be respected. Bright sneakers and multicolored clothes will only make you look childish. Tons of make-up and totally revealing dresses will only make you look like an attention-seeking cheap girl. Don’t try so hard to look good. Take time and learn about fashion. Always select the best clothes. If there’s an influential fashion icon you admire, try to emulate them. Buy clothes that make you look really smart. Strive to be classy not swaggy.

5. Be crazy

Being crazy and normal at the same time will really give you numerous points. Girls particularly love crazy guys because of the thrill they offer. Picture this, when young people look for friends, they always opt for those who are entertaining and create fun moments. Have a sense of humor, always make people laugh. This way, those who have spent time with you will always tell others how you are fun to be with. Those who have been told will in turn strive to get a piece of you someday. This way, you will get popular.

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Black Men 9 Steps To A Stronger Erection…

How do you increase the size, strength and stamina of your erections? There are endless treatments, ointments and devices claiming to pump up your volume, but precious few solutions hold any water. The reality is that we’re blessed (or possibly cursed) with whatever God gave us. But if you follow the realistic tips below, you can maximize your erection.

These tips could come in handy when you know in advance that you’re going to have sex, as you’ll be well-informed and prepared. 

1. Eat Well
Raising a massive erection is an expensive proposition for your body. Blood and hormones all take up valuable nutrients. So good nutrition is key for those looking to having sex multiple times.
 Carbohydrates, being the  building block of energy, are essential. Our sexual needs require eating carbs and plenty of them! Pasta and bread are solid carb sources. You also need to ingest zinc every day.
Zinc is vital for production of testosterone, seminal fluid and sperm. You can find this mineral in liver, seafood, peas, and beans. Or take a zinc supplement.

Avoid high fat meals before sex. Excess fat intake lowers testosterone levels in your body, decreases libido and makes erection and ejaculation more difficult.
And an unhealthy diet may lead to poor circulation and hence erection problems. Avoid overeating and stuffing yourself before sex. If you’re going out for dinner together, don’t gulp down a five-course meal with wine and dessert, at least not if you know you’re going to have sex later on that night. Eat at least one hour before sex so you are properly digested.

2. Get positioned properly
Sexual positions where you are on top, like missionary and doggy style, allow more blood flow and a bigger, sturdier erection. It’s gravity, simple as that. So don’t do it in positions with your partner on top at first. The tug of gravity will drain the blood from your erection. Having your partner on top also gives them control of the movement, so it may lead to your loss of control in well more than one way.

3. Limit your sensitivity to go longer
The classic way to limit oversensitivity is to wear a condom, which you should be doing anyway. If you don’t need to wear a condom with your partner, you can try focusing on other things. Periodically take yourself out of the scene mentally if you think you’re going to lose control. The trick is to transport your mind away just long enough to avoid ejaculating too early, but not lose your erection.

4. Manage Any Medication You Are On
Medication for some ailments such as depression, social phobia, OCD, and anxiety are more and more common these days. These medicines are murder on your erection. If you’re on these types of drugs, work with your doctor to make sure you’re not over-medicated.


5. Save your strength
Don’t tire yourself out too quickly in the sack. If you exhaust yourself, your erection is going to feel like a marshmallow. Know your limits.

6. Calm Your Nerves
Too much anxiety and nervous energy can cause you problems. Unfortunately, sex is often riddled with anxiety resulting from a negative body image, a fear of intimacy or concerns about having a small member. This “stage fright” always seems to happen at the worst possible time, like the first time with someone new. So it’s pretty essential that you find a way to make yourself comfortable if you’re prone to bouts of nervousness during sex.

7. Exercise, Exercise, Exercise
Do abdominal exercises. This will help your abdominal muscles support and hold your erection, as opposed to holding your belly. Furthermore, if you have a large gut, it tends to make your unit small by comparison. Being in shape and having a good physique will make you feel good about yourself and up your confidence. This will, in turn, make you comfortable with your body, enticing you to have sex and increasing your sex drive. You can also give your penis a workout with some Kegel exercises. While there’s no hard evidence that they will produce a larger size, they will help you stay hard longer.

8. Don’t Smoke & Drink To Excess
Smoking cigarettes gives you bad circulation. And when you want to get down, the blood’s gotta be flowing. So there’s one more reason to quit. Drinking too much alcohol numbs your wiener and can inflate your prostate.

9. Don’t Masturbate Too Often
If you ever needed an excuse not to masturbate, that’s it. This calls for a little self-control and well help you achieve stronger erections, longer.

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Rather unknown but really special places on earth

The Bastei Bridge in the Elbe Sandstone Mountains of Germany

Popeye Village in Mellieha, Malta

The Labassin Waterfall Restaurant, located at the Villa Escudero Resort in the Philippines

Sidari, Corfu, Greece

Bellinzona, Switzerland

Spiral Staircase in Taihang Mountains, China

Procida, Italy

The scarab beetle statue in Luxor, Egypt. The legend says that if you walk around the beetle counter-clockwise seven times, you will have good luck.

Bishop Castle in the San Isabel National Forest located North West of Rye, Colorado

Cappadocia in Central Anatolia, largely in Nev?ehir Province, in Turkey

Mount Ai-Petry at night, Crimea, Ukraine

Samos, Greece

Wroclaw, Poland

The Grand Mosque, Abu Dhabi

Again Quinta da Regaleira, Sintra, Portugal, from the inside

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The 20 Rules of suits.

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Should you tell your children that Santa is a lie??

 

Should you tell your children the truth about Santa Claus? If so, when? What are the benefits for young minds in believing the myth of Kris Kringle?

Often around the holidays, parents of young children feel torn between whether or not they should come clean to their children about the non-existence of Santa Claus. To many parents, perpetuating the long-cherished myth is one of the joys of parenthood. Others view perpetuating the myth of Santa Claus as a fib when they are trying to teach their children not to lie. It is a dilemma the majority of parents face.  

Science Says Kids Are More Likely To Trust A Lie
It seems obvious that young children will easily believe what they’re told. But, a study in Psychological Science examining trust in three-year-olds discovered that unless kids were given a clue that they were hearing a lie, they will repeatedly trust what an adult tells them. In the experiment, one adult put a sticker under a red cup, but lied that the sticker was under an adjacent yellow cup. 

With some children, the adult placed an arrow on the yellow cup, helping them notice that what the adult was saying was incorrect. Interestingly, if the children were given a visual hint that what the adult was telling them was false, they were able to figure it out for themselves. But without a clue, the children believed the lie.

"Children have developed a specific bias to believe what they're told," said researcher Vikram K. Jaswal. "It's sort of a short cut to keep them from having to evaluate what people say.”

Believing Brings Some Unexpected Benefits
Allowing young children to believe in fantastical figures like Santa Claus, North Pole elves and magical reindeer can boost certain skills, according to social psychologist Dr. Lynda Breen. She stressed that letting young children embrace fantasy may be “valuable in their cognitive and social development.” Namely, the magical idea of Santa Claus is also “A symbol of hope and belief in him teaches children the values of role models, family bonding and sharing, as well as promoting cognitive benefits.”

Researchers from Lancaster University found that there’s even more positives in believing in Santa than promoting good values. In a 2010 study, researchers asked children to do certain tasks—like drawing objects and answering questions—after watching clips from Harry Potter films. They found that the clips expanded the children’s imaginations and abilities to think creatively. For instance, without watching the clips, some children weren’t able to draw an “imaginary object,” but were able to do so after engaging in the fantasy story.

The researchers found that besides entertainment, magical thinking “Can be viewed as an additional source of development of imagination and divergent thinking in children…magical thinking enables children to create fantastic imaginary worlds, and in this way enhances children‘s capacity to view the world and act upon it from multiple perspectives.”

And, as time goes on, it’s not likely your child will enter middle school still writing to Santa Claus. Jared Durtschi, at Kansas State University, explains that the transition should be gradual, however. "I don't think it's necessary for parents to decide upon a time to tell their children there is no Santa," Durtschi said. "As children develop, the magical thinking that is so common in kids, which allows them to so readily accept all the details of Santa Claus, will give way and they will soon figure it out on their own."

Every child’s transition period is different. As children grow and start to embrace more logical thinking, they’ll discern for themselves what they believe to be true or not.
When did you “spill the beans” about Santa Claus? Or, did your children make their own discoveries?

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